Be Positive All of the Time? Who are We Kidding!!?

People are often suggesting that we stay positive or look on the bright side, especially when things aren’t going very well. But let’s be honest, every day is not a sunny day.

When I first began my personal journey, in healing and Sovereignty, everything was “Love and Light”. I was smiling but going through some uncomfortable healing pains internally. So I understand what it’s like to smile through the discomfort and I want to share a few methods to assist you on your individual path.

Be Grateful

Sometimes the ideas presented by religion seem strange and useless, but sometimes they turn out to be better ideas than they might seem at first. An old Jewish saying recommends that we “bless one thousand things every day,” here “bless” being read “be grateful for.” Just like the in “seventy times seven” parable, the thousand isn’t exactly literal, it just means “a lot.”

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This little mantra reminds us to look for things in our day to be grateful for, and science has only recently begun to recommend the same thing. Whether you’re religious or not, acknowledging the things that you are grateful for every day can help to hardwire your brain to notice the positive things more quickly.

Be Aware Of Your Negative Thoughts

Just be mindful. Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention, usually to your breath or your thoughts. Mindful breathing is often used to control stress, but mindful thinking can lead to a more positive life. We tend to take our thoughts for granted but they can still make a difference as they float through our minds.

The Huffington Post’s, Dr. Joffrey Suprina explained that when we pay more attention to what thoughts we’re actually having throughout the day it can be easier to shake off the negative thoughts and focus on the positive.

Introduce Positive Thoughts

The staff at The Mayo Clinic point out that just like our thoughts can upset us when we don’t notice them, we also purposely introduce thoughts that make ourselves feel better. Trying to replace negative thoughts from our subconscious with positive thoughts from our conscious mind can be a very valuable tool, and quite effective when we actively work on it.

The staff at the Mayo Clinic also points out, however, that these thoughts still need to be practical for them to work. Ignoring the negative isn’t thinking positive. Thinking positive is about creating the life you desire.

Avoid Negative People


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A writer for Psychology Today, Dr. Gregory Jantz wrote that it is difficult for us to be positive when we are surrounded by negative people. That means people who are negative highlight the negativity in us. Dr. Jantz doesn’t necessarily say that we need to remove these people from our lives forever, just while we’re first learning to become more positive. Kind of like how people who are quitting smoking find it hard to be around smokers for the first few days but eventually they’re okay to be around other smokers again.

Look At Challenges As Opportunities

An article by author Paul Sloane published by recommends looking at potential challenges or setbacks as opportunities to go in another direction. We tend to look at where we are as the culmination of a lot of hard work and so when things don’t go our way we feel like that work was for nothing. In many cases, however, our achievements can be the result of hard work without being the culmination of hard work, and what we thought was our best can really be a stepping stone to what lies ahead.

Spend Time In “Input Mode”

A 2016 article by Inc. points out that we are either in “input” mode or “output” mode. Output mode is when we are doing or making things, like when we are at work or doing things for our family and friends. Input mode is when we are doing things for ourselves like reading books. We can develop negative thoughts, start judging, and even become resentful when we spend too much time in output mode. We can be more positive people by spending more time in input mode because we are doing those things that we enjoy, which frees up more energy to express outwardly.

Learn to Love Yourself First



Learning to Love Yourself

Is this your totem animal? 

… we all have a desire to be loved.

Often, it’s a romantic love that we crave. We are caught up in our loneliness and it’s normal to have a desire for companionship. Though, romance isn’t everyone’s struggle or desire – it may be a familial want or a platonic friendship. While, for some it may be a combination of all of these. 

Rejection and hurt can leave us feeling unfulfilled and disillusioned with how we expect relationships to play out. When they don’t go as we want them to we often blame ourselves and wonder where we went wrong… that’s not what it’s about…. and neither is it about blaming the other person.

This is where learning to love yourself comes in – and that comes with some incredible benefits… here are six!

1. You’ll Be Large & In Charge 

Instead of making bad choices because you’re being led by shame, guilt or fear – you will be empowered to make choices that truly make sense for who you are – meaning you will be living your authentic life; choosing by what YOU desire.

You will no longer be caught up with people pleasing, instead you will live a life that brings you satisfaction.

Self-love means honoring yourself because you know your needs are just as important as others.

2. You Set Boundaries and Stick to Them

Once you have the hang of honoring your needs you start to feel more confident, which means you are more assertive. Sure.

This results in a more purposeful attitude, especially when it comes to dating. You start knowing your value and you’re able to move forward without those who do not appreciate your uniqueness.

More to the point, you are strong enough to set clear boundaries with people and stick to them. 

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3. The Approval Seeking Will Stop 

When you truly love yourself, you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks about you – which means you’re a less defensive person and more confident about living a life that is authentic for you.

Why would you need acceptance from everyone else when you truly accept yourself? 

4. You Will Be A Conscious Decision Maker 

Loving yourself gives you the courage to cut things from your life that don’t truly bring you joy or provide you with ample space to grow.

It’s easy to make courageous decisions when you value yourself and actively make choices that are intended to honor you, rather than risk harming you. 

5. You Will Enjoy Alone Time

A lot of people get caught up in keeping busy schedules simply because they’re terrified of feeling or being alone. If this is you, you may surround yourself with people, throw yourself into work, and make decisions that help you avoid that loneliness.

Why would you do all of the things that you don’t love?

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You could be filling that time with things that you actually enjoy doing – whether it’s meditation, swimming, writing, watching a movie, or reading an email from Jahdiree.

It doesn’t need to feel scary to spend time alone, you should enjoy time with yourself.

6. Happiness 

It’s unnecessary to look for happiness in things or others. When you start taking responsibility for it and stop giving your power away to everyone else, you will naturally feel happier.

And if you are not in a romantic relationship right now, when the right person shows up, you will be ready for that love. 

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10 ways to more positivity in your life…

Your viewpoint, perspective, on life can affect your physical and mental health as well as your emotions. It can also either raise or lower your blood pressure, cholesterol, and stress levels. If you feel negative about everything, then things usually become more difficult. You can get sick easily, find it difficult to face adversities and hardships in life. Because regardless if you are in the loop with how attraction works, the law of attraction works. Simply put, you will attract what you are. 

Thinking in a negative light makes it harder for you to enjoy the little things in life. Whether it’s by focusing only on the negative, or by blaming everything that goes wrong on yourself or others will only make things seem even worse than they actually are. 

Anyone can infuse positivity into their lives. The power of positive thinking may seem a bit cliché, but it really does wonders for your self-esteem, overall mood and reduces the risk of chronic diseases. And… it only takes 21 days of intentional action in order to establish a habit and here is a “healthy habit” for you to engage in ❣️.

10 ways to help you approach life with a more positive viewpoint.

Limit your “always” and your “nevers.”  ~ Amy Poehler​​

1. Turn failures into lessons

Things are not going to yield the result you desired all of the time, but instead of focusing on the less than desirable result, break down what didn’t go according to the plan so you can learn from it, so you can use it to your advantage.

2. Find positive friends

Surrounding yourself with people who are grounded and upbeat helps you maintain a positive outlook. Positivity, as is negativity, is contagious. So, choose your friends wisely.

3. Be thankful

Each night before going to bed, write down 3 things you’re grateful for. It may be as small as a great cup of coffee or something bigger as getting your work done on time at work. Make it a habit and you’ll soon realize it’s become part of your daily routine.

4. Seek humor

Watching stand-up comedy routines or funny movies opens you up to laughter which signals the brain to release ‘feel good’ hormones. This reduces stress levels and allows you to see the silver lining, even in the most difficult of situations. And so does moving your body… like going to the gym 😉 Lady Boss Weight Loss FREE

5. Assess what you’d like to change

This could be hard to do at first and may require several attempts, but it gets results and you’ll feel empowered. Maybe your job is ill-fitting and fills your life with negativity. You may want to do something else, but fear is holding you back. Maybe it’s your car, your apartment, the color of your walls – many things can be affecting the level of negativity in your life and once you put your finger on it, you can consciously change it for the better.

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6. Start your day with positive affirmations

Begin your day on a high note by recognizing the good things that can happen throughout your day. Pessimists tend to start their day worrying and thinking about all that can go wrong. This makes you see everything in a negative light and causes a series of unfortunate events like a domino effect.

Pro Tip: Start the day by filling in the blank:

” I intend to experience today ________ (insert your positive affirmation/ mantra).

7. Stop the flow of negative thoughts

You might need lots of practice at first but be patient and make the effort. Observe your thought patterns. Each time you feel negative self-talk creeping up by being overly critical or judgmental, or when you are focusing only on your failures, write down a positive affirmation to counter each negative thought and once you are aware of when a negative thought attempts to creep in you can stop it in its track. And when I say stop it you can simply choose NOT to complete the thought.

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8. Find something you love to do

Hobbies are something we don’t hear of too much these days since we’re all so busy. But taking the time to engage in something you’re good at, and actually enjoy, fills you with a sense of joy and fulfillment.

9. Live a healthy lifestyle

Eat right, exercise regularly and you’ll see a definite boost in your mood. Plus, you’ll feel more confident and this helps you see things in a brighter, more positive light. Stagnant energy begins to settle into the pockets of our soft and squishy parts and no one wants knots forming on the body.

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10. Perfect practice makes perfect

Reinforcing positive living requires practice. The more you do it, the better you’ll be at it. Then, one day when you’re in the midst of a crisis, you’ll find that the first thing that comes to your mind is not what can go wrong, but how can I use my strengths to overcome this adversity.

No one said life was easy and sometimes we get overwhelmed with what life throws our way. But it’s up to us to decide how we’ll come out the other end. You can decide whether you’ll have a positive perspective and make sweet, delicious lemonade, or you’ll be negative and be left with a batch of sour lemons.

Use the sour lemons for something else because lemonade is pretty cool!

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I trust this has been of value.

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4 Ways to Stop Procrastination

Procrastination may not be just about turning in your school report or work project in at the last minute. It may also be putting off important life decisions like whether or not you should ask your boss for that raise he promised last month, or whether you should join a gym, leave your boyfriend/ girlfriend, have a baby, start that next lesson for self development, open an email from Jahdiree, call your parents, meditate, pray – it’s endless.

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And if you choose not to stop putting things off, you’ll deal with procrastination your whole life which may have a negative effect on your relationships, career, and personal health.

The thought process behind procrastination is that we believe there’s always tomorrow, so why not just steer clear of the stress and anxiety and put it off until later.

So, this is the first thing you need to tackle.

Choose to STOP Stressin’

It won’t be easy but try to figure out what the stress factor is behind your procrastination. It could be fear of failure, fear of confrontation, fear of not being perfect, fear of spending more time on the project than you actually desire, fear of committing and having to follow through with action, and even a fear of the responsibility that comes with completing the task.

You are your own worst critic.

You judge your flaws and imperfections way too harshly. Yet studies show that when you forgive yourself for putting things off, or not getting things done as perfectly as you would’ve liked, can actually help fend off procrastination.

Sometimes we tend to bite off more than we can choose, then we go off the deep end because the end result wasn’t anywhere what we had envisioned.

Sounds a bit familiar?

Follow these tips to help you avoid procrastination once and for all.

1. Turn burdensome tasks into habits.

We all have enough willpower to get about 3 or 4 tasks done each day. Habits use other parts of our brain rather than the prefrontal cortex which is associated with rational thinking. So, when you train yourself to do something out of habit, rather than look at it as a mundane task, you think about it less which means you’re using less willpower and you won’t fall into the procrastination rut.

Things like brushing your teeth or making your bed have all become daily habits which you automatically perform without even considering putting them off. Why not turn healthy eating, daily exercise, or engaging with self development into daily habits as well?

After that it becomes easier, but you still have to keep yourself motivated and inspired.

get SOFT!

Procrastination is all about taking that dreaded first step. So why not ease into it with the knowledge that after a certain amount of time, or once I’ve finished “X”, I can watch videos on YouTube or go grab a drink with friends.

Make it pleasant for yourself because the reward is the part that the brain assimilates to gauge your enjoyment level. If you’re happy, then your brain slowly turns this task into a habit which you look forward to, instead of something you dread on a daily basis.

2. Break work tasks into chunks.

Instead of cleaning out the entire garage, do the right side first, take a break, then do the left side, take a break, then finish off the rest. At work, big tasks may seem daunting when you look at them as a whole. The answer? Break it down into smaller tasks. Make an outline of the entire project, and then divide it up into smaller tasks.

Working in 30-minute increments also helps break down tasks into smaller chunks which are manageable and not so intimidating. After the 30 minutes, take a break and assess your work. Seeing how much you’ve accomplished will give you that boost of confidence you need to keep at it.

3. Remove distractions.

Checking your phone every 5 minutes isn’t doing you any good. So, once you’ve committed to doing the job, limit distractions by putting it away. You can find apps that help you stay on track, but some will say that’s completely missing the point.

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The important thing is that you set up a certain time for checking your emails or your social media, and once you’ve started your task, you avoid the urge to take a sneak peak.

Another serious distraction is multi-tasking.

Even though it may seem that you’re being productive, the truth is it’s a complete waste of time and energy. Think about it, it takes your brain about 20 minutes to completely focus on one task and give it 100%, and then you bring in another task which means you decrease your focus level by half, bring in a third task and the focus drops even lower. So even though you’re working more, your end results will be below average because in multi-tasking you are dividing 100% of your attention to as many things as you are choosing to engage.

4. Work during your peak hours.

We all have certain times during the day when we’re most alert. Some of us are morning people (I am not one of those people), some are night owls, and some have more energy during the afternoon hours. Find out what your peak hours are and tackle your most difficult tasks then.

You’ll be more of a powerhouse then with your brain working at its maximum capacity.

Procrastination is different than being lazy because when you procrastinate, you delay doing something for a more pleasurable task. So why not turn that mundane task you’re dreading into something more fun and enjoyable, and kill off the urge to procrastinate?

How does all of this sound to you?

How does the idea of incorporating these steps feel inside?

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